Anthony has been deployed for nearly a month. He doesn't exactly love it in Japan, but it is better than Afghanistan! I think he slightly wishes he were at war instead of doing a training MEU. This time is way different than the last. I have not sent him any packages because he can purchase basically everything that he needs or wants. I have sent him a couple postcards but no letters. We have Skyped once or twice and we talk on Facebook messenger almost daily. It really doesn't even seem like he is deployed. He is currently upset with me because I missed a Skype date. I feel extremely bad for missing it, but I definitely did not miss it on purpose. It makes me really upset that he is treating me like I ditched him. I try my hardest to be understanding about everything he does and says because deployment causes a lot of stress on both him and I. I would rather not argue when we only get to talk a little bit. I also try not to be a push-over though too because I don't want him to get used to that. Deployment definitely pulls on strings that you didn't even know were there before.
I have moved home for the next two years. I am going to complete my bachelors while Anthony is still in the Marine Corps. He has two years left until he can re-enlist or get out. If he chooses to get out I would like to have a degree under my belt so I can find a good job/career to support us while he is figuring out what he wants to do. A lot of people have given me grief for moving back to Michigan to go to school. I try to ignore them, but boy is it difficult. When Anthony and I are around each other, we have no motivation. I know that sounds totally ridiculous, but it is 110% true. If I were to go to school in California, I wouldn't have the motivation to get a quality education. And, I have always wanted to graduate from Western Michigan University. It is a dream of mine. Anthony is upset that I have moved home to go back to school. He is trying to be supportive of my dream, because I have been supportive of his, but it is turning out to be slightly more difficult than he thought. The next two years of our life together is going to be interesting. We are going to have to be stronger than people think we are. We are going to have to love each other through the rough and into the smooth.
Supporting each other has been one of the hardest things for us to learn to do. I was so against the idea of Anthony joining the Marine Corps when we first got together. He hated who I was when I was at Western for the first year. Yet, somehow we grew past all of that and we made things work. I have supported him throughout the past 3 years of him being a Marine. He has supported me in my complicated journey through college. We have grown up a lot since we first met. There are times that we have had a hard time being positive, but we've done it. We have climbed the mountains together and created a marriage that is much more than we expected. The love we have is different, but we've always known that. If we can continue to be supportive and loving throughout the next two years, everything will be just fine.
I'm confident!